A Guide to planning your wedding at High St

We recognise that your wedding is a very important day and will take a lot of planning. This brief guide will help you with those plans.

A Church Wedding

Why get married in church? These days there are many places for couples to have their weddings. Choosing a church wedding implies you are acknowledging that God is a part of your life and your relationship—whether you attend church regularly or not. A church wedding will include religious language, hymns and other religious music, prayers, and readings from the Bible. The hymns and readings are personal choices and will vary from wedding to wedding. If you are unsure of what you would like to have, the minister will be happy to help you with the selection. To help you, at the bottom of this page there are also some readings and hymns which are often chosen for weddings.

At this church our minister is always involved in the major part of the wedding. If you have a friend or relative you would like to participate, they may do so only with the guidance of our minister. This generally takes the form of giving the address to the couple or a reading during the service.

There is usually more than one wedding at our church on the day of your wedding. It is, therefore, very important that the bride arrives on time, and the wedding starts promptly.

Legal Documentation and Fees

In order to be married in a United Reformed Church, we have to have a marriage license received from the Northamptonshire Registrar’s Office. Both parties must go to the office to register for the wedding. It is best to make an appointment. The phone number for the Wellingborough Office is 0300 126 1000. A licence is valid for a year. It is best to get the licences, you need one each, as soon as possible. You must bring them to the Church Office as soon as you can; we will hold them for your wedding day. If you do you not have this licence, you will not be able to marry on the appointed day. The Registrar’s fee for each licence is currently £33.50.

The fees for a wedding at our church total £450. These include flowers in the church and payment for the minister, the organist, the registrar, and the use of the church. An additional fee of £75 is required to cover copyright should you wish to video your wedding.

A deposit of £100 is required as soon as your wedding has been agreed with the minister. The balance of the fees can be brought to the Church Office which is open Thursday mornings between 9.30 a.m. and 12.30 p.m., brought to your first meeting with the minister, or received by other arrangements made specifically for you. The balance of the fees must be paid at least two months prior to the wedding. If you decide to cancel your wedding, we may return your deposit minus a £30 administrative fee.

Planning Your Wedding

Once your wedding is agreed with the church, you will meet with the minister a second time to plan the service. Following that a rehearsal will be scheduled. The order of service for your wedding is your responsibility to provide. The church can, however, provide a template for the order of service. In addition, the minister would like to proofread a draft copy of the order before it goes to print.

As you have expressed a desire to be married in our church, we hope we will see in church on Sunday in the weeks before your wedding. This gives you an opportunity to familiarize yourself with the building, the minister, and the expectations of our worship services, of which your wedding is one.

Possible Hymns

  • All things bright and beautiful
  • As man and women we were made
  • Be still for the presence of the Lord
  • Give me joy in my heart
  • Great is Thy faithfulness
  • Jerusalem
  • Lord of all hopefulness, Lord of all joy
  • Lord of the dance
  • Love Divine, all loves excelling
  • Make me a channel of your peace
  • Morning has broken
  • One more step along the world I go
  • Praise my soul the King of Heaven
  • Tell out, my soul, the greatness of the Lord
  • The King of love my shepherd is

Possible Readings

  1. Love is Patient..(1 Corinthians Chapter 13)
  2. God creates women and men to look after the earth..(Genesis, Chapter 1, verses 26-28)
  3. A love poem between two lovers..(Solomon, Chapter 2, verses 10-13; Chapter 8, verses 6&7)
  4. Jesus teaches how to live a life that brings true happiness..(Matthew, Chapter 5, verses 1-10)
  5. What happens when Jesus attends a wedding reception..(John, Chapter 2, verses 1 - 11)
  6. Committing to each other..(Ephesians Chapter 5, verses 21-33)
  7. Seeing the good side..(Philippians Chapter 4, verses 4 - 9)
  8. Getting the perfect relationship..(Colossians Chapter 3, verses 12 - 17)